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Adult Children of Divorce

How to Overcome the Legacy of Your Parents' Breakup and Enjoy Love, Trust, and Intimacy

Jeffrey Zimmerman & Elizabeth Thayer

Parent's relationships greatly influence one's core beliefs about marriage as an institution. This guide teaches the adult children of divorced parents, how to identify their inherited distrust of relationships and develop, in their own lives, fulfilling and lasting partnerships of their own.
With this guide, readers learn that the effects of divorce are neither permanent nor defining. They find out how to evaluate the level of dysfunction that brought about their parents' divorce. By working through this book, readers will master healthy boundary-setting skills and communication techniques. By letting go of guilt, pain, and anger, they find out how to forgive their parents, and in doing so, discover new ways of enriching their own relationships.

15x24cm

190 pages

$30.00

After Your Divorce

Creating the Good Life on Your Own (Rebuilding Books: Relationships-Divorce-And Beyond )

Cynthia MacGregor & Robert Alberti

It's over. The divorce is final, he's out of your house and mostly out of your life. Now what? Are you ready to get on with your life? Do you have dreams, plans, skills, energy for what comes next? And will you be making it happen, or letting it happen? MacGregor and Alberti have prepared a friendly, straightforward manual of advice and suggestions that assumes every woman is capable of handling life on her own. Helps for emotional recovery (MacGregor is a survivor, Alberti is a psychologist), practical matters (credit, home repairs), dealing with your ex (be assertive!), helping your children to cope (we didn't divorce you!), and much more.

22x16cm

238 pages

$35.00

At Daddy's on Saturdays

Linda Girard

Katie is angry, sad, and afraid her daddy will never come back when he moves out of the house when her parents divorce. But on Saturdays he is there, and Katie comes to understand that even though her parents won't be together, they still love her and will always be her parents.

22x16cm

32 pages

$12.00

Between Two Worlds

The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce

Elizabeth Marquardt

Is there really such a thing as a "good divorce"? Determined to uncover the truth, the author -herself a child of divorce- conducted, a national (US) study of children of divorce, surveying 1,500 young adults from both divorced and intact families between 2001 and 2003. In "Between Two Worlds," she weaves the findings of that study together with powerful, unsentimental stories of the childhoods of young people from divorced families.
The hard truth, she says, is that while divorce is sometimes necessary, even amicable divorces sow lasting inner conflict in the lives of children. When a family breaks in two, children who stay in touch with both parents must travel between two worlds, trying alone to reconcile their parents' often strikingly different beliefs, values, and ways of living. Authoritative, beautifully written, and alive with the voices of men and women whose lives were changed by divorce, her book is essential reading for anyone who grew up "between two worlds."

20x13cm

255 pages

$25.00

Co-Parenting Survival Guide

Letting go of conflict after a difficult divorce

Thayer & Zimmerman

Learn to navigate hot spots of hostility and conflict around communication, visitation, extraxurricular activities, holidays, and new partners.

23x15cm

190 pages

$30.00

Creative Parenting After Separation

A happier way forward

Elizabeth Seddon

Much has been written about the ingredients of a good relationship but now we need to build a picture that identifies the ingredients of a good separation.
Parenting is the key to a child's successful adjustment after separation. This handbook is an invaluable guide for couples or individuals who want to maintain and promote their children's stability and security by effective parenting after the separation of their families. This book brings together individual experiences with current research to help guide decision making for parents who put a high priority on helping their children through these confusing and frightening times.

21x14cm

248 pages

$26.95

Dinosaurs Divorce

A guide for changing families

Laurene Krasny Brown and Marc Brown

All about divorce for pre-school to about 8 year olds. Divorce words and their meanings, why parents divorce and how it affects kids, after divorce, visiting parents, two homes, telling friends, etc.

22x23cm

32 pages

$15.95

Divorce Helpbook for Kids

Cynthia MacGregor

Divorce is tough on kids. This down-to-earth guide genuinely helps. Included are discussions of many topics troubling kids when their parents divorce: reasons parents get divorced; ways the divorce will change kids' lives; kids' feelings about divorce; things kids can do to help them feel better (and reassurance that they are not to blame); who to talk to; and what's likely to happen next.
This isn't just a book about divorce, but about life after divorce; visitation, custody, straddling two households, and making it all work.

21x14cm

112 pages

$27.95

Divorce Helpbook for Teens

Cynthia MacGregor

This warm and friendly guide offers a helping hand to teens struggling to answer the tough questions when their parents divorce: Why do parents get divorced? How will the divorce change our lives? What can I do to feel less depressed? Whom can I talk with about my problems? What's likely to happen next? How do you tell absent parents that they don't visit often enough? How do you say "no" to parents who want you to carry messages to, or spy on, the other parent? What is there to talk about when you visit a parent who's moved away?Packed with vignettes, strategies, and solid advice, The Divorce Helpbook for Teens is a resource teens will keep in their backpacks, on their bedside tables, and in their hearts as they go through the difficult times surrounding a family breakup.

21x15cm

134 pages

$28.00

Divorce Workbook for Children

Help for Kids to Overcome Difficult Family Changes and Grow Up Happy

Lisa M Schwab

40 simple, fun activities to teach kids to stay out of the middle of parental problems, communicate their needs, and cope better with stress and change.

25x20cm

139 pages

$25.00

Divorce Workbook for Teens

Activities to Help You Move Beyond the Break Up

Liam M Schab

Activities to help teens move beyond the breakup, understand their feelings, cope with parental fighting, and be happy despite family changes.

25x20cm

197 pages

$28.00

Divorced But Still My Parents

A helping-book about divorce for children and parents with workbook activities for ages 6-12.

Thomas & Rankin

Organized according to the five stages of grief - Denial - Anger - Bargaining - Depression - Acceptance. Each phase is explained in words children can understand, and most common problems and worries faced by boys and girls are included, along with ideas for coping and feeling better. The story of Kristen, a kitten whose parents are separating, is woven through the book. By imagining her experience, children can see.

22x18cm

80 pages

$26.00

Does Wednesday Mean Mom's House or Dad's?

Parenting Together While Living Apart (2ND ed.)

Marc Ackerman

Updated to include the latest research, laws, and terminology, this edition coaches parents on what to expect during divorce and how to act in their children's best interest. Guides parents on how to successfully and positively navigate every aspect of the divorce, custody, and co-parenting process.

22x15cm

272 pages

$32.95

Fred Stays With Me!

Nancy Coffelt

Sometimes I live with my mum. Sometimes I live with my dad. But Fred stays with me. But Fred likes to steal socks and make a mess, and Mum and Dad are mad that Fred is such a troublemaker! Divorce isn't easy, but it helps when you have a friend like Fred.

23x20cm

32 pages

$14.00

Goodnight, Daddy

Angela Seward, illus Donna Ferreiro

A realistic portrayal of a little girl's love for her absent father and her disappointment at being "stood up" by him. Phoebe's mother helps her realize that she can cope with being disappointed by someone she loves after he cancels his visit with her.

22x22cm

48 pages

$14.00

I Don't Want to Talk about It

Jeannie Ransom

When a child's parents tell her they have decided to divorce, the last thing she wants to do is talk about it. With her parents' help, she learns that while some things will change, many other things, especially their love for her, will remain the same.

25x20cm

32 pages

$18.00

Invisible String

Patrice Karst, illus Geoff Stevenson

Mums and Dads feel the tug whenever kids give it a pull. Kids feel the tug that comes back to them. This story is a very simple approach to overcoming the fear of loneliness or separation from parents, with an imaginative flair that children can easily identify with and remember. Here is a warm and delightful lesson teaching young and old that we aren’t ever really alone.

26x26cm

32 pages

$32.00

It’s Just Different Now

Linda Espie

This beautifully simply book will help many children, ages 3-7 comes to terms with their grief when parents separate and children long to have the family together again.
This book can also be used with children who have suffered a bereavement. The illustrations are beautiful, the words succinct, and it's an ideal book to start a conversation.

30x21cm

32 pages

$16.95

Joint Custody with a Jerk

Raising a Child with an Uncooperative Ex, a Hands On, Practical Guide to Coping with Custody Issues That Arise with an (4TH ed.)

Julie Ross & Judy Corcoran

Parenting is difficult enough in a family where the two parents love and respect each other. In divorce, where the respect has diminished and the love has often turned into intense dislike, co-parenting cane drive on or both parents to the brink of insanity. "Joint Custody with a Jerk "offers many proven communication techniques that will help you deal with your difficult ex-husband or ex-wife by describing examples of common problems and teaching you to examine your role in these sticky situations. These strategies for effective mediation are easy to apply, down-to-earth, and innovative.

22x16cm

256 pages

$30.00

Mending Lucille

J R Poulter, Sarah Davis

The little girl is without her mum and her doll Lucille needs mending. The plane, the hurt grey bird, the broken doll are poignant metaphors in this beautifully illustrated simply told story of how Chrissie gently reaches out to mend the child, the doll and the family.

26x24cm

32 pages

$29.00

Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids

Feeling at Home in One Home or Two

Isolini Ricci

Supports the child and the parent so they can bounce back from disappointment, stress and major changes. There are frank answers, stories, tips, lists, ways to "train your brain", and maps for marking family progress. Children will be relieved to see their thoughts and experiences affirmed in words.
Dealing with parents living apart, schedules, and dueling house rules Managing stress, guilt, fear, and the special energy of adrenaline Avoiding the "miserable middle" when parents disagree or fight Considering words to try for talking with parents about difficult things Learning about several different ways to solve a problem or reach a goal Settling in with their family and stepfamily in one home or two believing in themselves, their uniqueness, their dreams and goals
This book does more than help kids cope, it is the wise, upbeat, and inspiring guide that children and parents will refer to again and again.

22x15cm

251 pages

$26.00

Mom’s House, Dad’s House

Making two homes for your child.

Isolina Ricci

A complete guide for parents who are separated, divorced, or remarried, this book has become a classic over two decades.
This book looks at the needs of all concerned with creative options and commonsense advise in the legal, emotional, and practical realities of creating two happy and stable homes for your children.

13x21cm

381 pages

$24.95

My Family's Changing

A First Look at Family Break-Up

Pat Thomas

This unusual picture book for younger children explores the issue of divorce. The fears, worries, and questions that boys and girls face when their family goes through this difficult period of breaking up are explained in terms children will readily understand.

21x24cm

32 pages

$14.00

Parenting After Divorce

Resolving Conflicts and Meeting Your Children's Needs 2nd ed

Phillip M Stahl

This revised and updated second edition features ideas from the latest research, more information on long-distance parenting, dealing with the courts, and working with a difStahl knows parents are not perfect, and he uses that knowledge to show imperfect parents how to settle their differences in the best interests of the children. ficult co-parent.

23x15cm

208 pages

$32.00

Rebuilding 3rd ed

When Your Relationship Ends

Bruce Fisher & Robert Alberti

The classic in this area. Fisher's "divorce process rebuilding blocks" offer a proven, supportive nineteen-step process for putting one's life back together after divorce. Built on more than two decades of research and practice, Rebuilding reflects feedback from, and the experiences of hundreds of thousands of divorced men and women who have read and used Rebuilding--many of them on their own, others in one of thousands of groups the book has spawned in the U.S.A., Canada, Australia, New Zealand, Mexico, and elsewhere. Clearly the most widely used approach to divorce recovery, Fisher's Rebuilding model has made the divorce process less traumatic, even healthier, for his readers. His Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale is recognized worldwide as a measure of adjustment to the end of a love relationship.
The new 3rd edition, revised and updated with the assistance of psychologist and marriage and family therapist Dr. Robert Alberti, continues Bruce's tradition of straight-to-the-heart response to the needs of those who are divorcing or divorced.

23x16cm

290 pages

$31.95

Rebuilding Workbook

When Your Relationship Ends

Fisher

Bruce Fisher's "Rebuilding" books and workshops have influenced hundreds of thousands of divorced persons worldwide. Now his step-by-step seminar workbook is available to the general market. Built around ten carefully designed "lesson plans, " the workbook offers a self-help or group work plan for systematic progress through the most important steps in divorce recovery. Each lesson plan includes behavioral objectives, a meeting agenda (with suggested group exercises), and "homework" for the next week's seminar. Self-help readers will enjoy the supplementary readings, specific exercises that may be completed alone, affirmation suggestions, and other features of the "workbook" format. Divorce recovery groups find the Workbook an invaluable week-by-week guide as they share their experiences and work together to recover from the divorce crisis. The Workbook is widely used by therapists and other growth facilitators as a systematic plan for their seminars on divorce.

28x21cm

128 pages

$33.95

Shared Parenting

Raising your children cooperatively after separation

Jill Burrett and Miichael Green

Shows how shared parenting can work after separation and how both parents can maintain meaningful relationships with their children.
The authors provide sample parenting plans - both complex and simple - for various types of separated families. The practical tools they offer work in every party's best interests - especially the children's. With legislation in many jurisdictions now enshrining shared parental responsibility and parenting time, the authors show separated parents how to make this work. They cite supporting research which indicates how important it is for children to continue meaningful relationships after family breakdown. Myths and misconceptions are dealt with, together with practical advice on how parents can get past their hurt and anger and focus on approaches that will benefit their children. The authors also tackle the nuts and bolts of weekly routines and include useful suggestions on timetabling and communication between households. Once a good shared parenting arrangement is in place, the emotional benefits reveal themselves: • mums becoming more comfortable with sharing the children; • dads learning to truly be with the children; and • children being happier in shared care arrangements, and so benefiting their parent. (Aust)

14x22cm

192 pages

$24.95

The Grief Club

The Secret to Getting Through All Kinds of Change

Melody Beattie

How to move on after a major loss, such as the death of a loved one, the end of a career, or a health crisis. After author Melody Beattie's son died, she found herself welcomed into new "club," a circle of people who had lived through the tragic loss of a child. This was not the first club in which she unwittingly found herself. Years earlier she found herself in Twelve Step groups, first balking, then later embracing the healing principles that she now credits with saving her life. But life, Ms. Beattie writes, is all about change. Not only do loved ones die, but once successful careers can careen out of control and debilitating diseases can rob you of future plans. Smaller losses can take a toll as well. The natural process of aging leaves many people with a depleted sense of worth, and staying abreast with current technologies leaves many people feeling ill-informed and inadequate. She writes, "There's a secret to get through loss, pain and grief. If we're alone we can't see who we are. When we join the club, other people become the mirror. Through them, we see ourselves and gain an understanding of what we're going through. Then slowly, real slowly, we learn to accept who we see in the mirror. Then you become the mirror for them; by being honest about who you are, you'll help them learn to love and accept themselves."

21x17cm

350 pages

$30.00

Two Homes

Claire Masurel

This reassuring classic for younger children which addresses separation and divorce and helps kids embrace even the most difficult of changes is now in paperback. Full color.

23x25cm

32 pages

$13.95

Was It the Chocolate Pudding?

A Story for Little Kids about Divorce

Sandra Levins

This age-appropriate book helps children understand that divorce is about grown-up problems, while getting comforting answers to their most pressing questions.

20x25cm

40 pages

$17.95

What in the World Do You Do When Your Parents Divorce

A survival guide for kids

Kent Winchester & Roberta Beyer

This companion to Speaking of Divorce is for kids ages 7–12. In a simple question-and-answer format, the book gently explains what divorce is, why parents decide to divorce, new living arrangements, how to handle feelings, and other basics to help children understand what's happening in their lives. With honesty and simplicity, the authors help children realize that divorce isn't their fault, strong emotions are okay, and families can survive difficult changes. Written to and for kids, this book is also recommended for parents, educators, counselors, and youth workers.

16x16cm

115 pages

$19.95

When Mom and Dad Divorce

An Elf-Help Book for Kids

Emily Menendez-aponte

This book is written to help children walk through some of the conflicting emotions that assail them in the aftermath of a divorce. It offers simple, affirming messages that help the child deal with the trauma of divorce in emotionally healthy ways. These messages are wonderfully illustrated by acclaimed artist R.W. Alley.

20x20cm

32 pages

$14.95

When Mom and Dad Separate

Children Can Learn to Cope with Grief from Divorce.

Marge Heegaard

With notes for adults, these books are written to help children understand the many feelings children have about divorce. The book is designed to be illustrated by children, who need just to draw line shapes and perhaps a few words to tell some things about the changes that are happening.

22x28cm

32 pages

$17.00

When My Parents Forgot to be Friends

Jennifer Moore-Mallinos, illus Marta Fabrega

Young children become confused and hurt when their parents constantly argue, then decide to divorce. This sensitively written book assures boys and girls that children are in no way responsible for their parents' inability to get along together. It lets kids know that although one parent chooses to move away from the home, both parents continue to love their little boy or girl. Both Mum and Dad will continue to spend happy times with them.
"I used to think it was my fault that my parents weren't friends any longer ... but now I understand that they can get along better if they each live in a different house.

24x24cm

32 pages

$14.95


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